Then How Will It Be? | Brave| The Third Door
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Learn: something new or an idea
Energy: an energy (good or bad) word and it’s meaning
Action: something to do
Processing: a question to consider
Shout out: something or someone that I want to celebrate or acknowledge
LEARN
Something Worth Sharing
Then How Will It Be?
During a recent fascinating and deep conversation with someone close to me, we talked about a situation neither of us were happy about. While processing this, I wondered that if we didn’t want things as they were, then how did we want them to be?
It’s very easy to finger point and look at the negatives of a situation, but when you reframe things from what you don’t want to how you do want them to be - you can start to build and make progress. This question got me thinking about a number of other things - if I don’t want them as they are, then how would I want them?
If, for example, you have a job that isn’t what you want, what would your ideal job be? I don’t mean in terms of the job specification, but how you would want it to be in terms of feelings, trust, freedom, safety and what it would allow you to do and be etc. If you don’t like something about a relationship you have, then how would you like that to be? Once we shape how we want things to be, it allows us to walk back to where we are now, and begin taking the necessary steps forward. It may sound really basic, but understanding how we would like something to be can be harder than you’d think. It can be as challenging as just deciding (admitting) that you want something to be better than it is now, rather than simply carrying on just because you feel you ‘should’.
ENERGY
An emotion or energy; a stand-out word / s
Brave
Being brave is something we tell our children from a young age - when they fall and you pick them up telling them that they are “so brave”.
The word ‘brave’ is believed to be from Italian BRAVO originally meaning "wild, savage" - a word of uncertain origin, although it is suggested that it’s roots could be from Medieval Latin word BRAVUS "cutthroat, villain".
When a child falls, their villain is pain and perhaps a little embarrassment. As we age, we have many villains in life that we need to face with bravery - from fear to the uncertain, and from change to loss.
ACTION
Something small that you can do that might make a big difference
Change Direction
As I typed this ‘action’ I was thinking of how interesting it can be when you travel a certain journey on a regular basis - and then opt (or have no choice!) to change the route. I guess you can do a few things with this action, it doesn’t need to just be a physical route or journey, it could be a behaviour or conversation!
PROCESSING
A question to think about and consider (you can discuss this with someone or write your thoughts down)
“What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said?”
If you’ve ever read the wonderful book ‘The boy, the mole, the fox and the horse’, you’ll have come across this question before. There isn’t much more to add to the question!
I’d love for you to send me your own stories / thoughts about this. Drop me a line with your answer / thoughts on this question
SHOUT OUT
Who / what I think deserves recognition - my gratitude or to be celebrated.
Asking For Help
For many years I thought asking for help was a weakness. I now know that it is a sign of strength and courage - it’s a brave thing to do. Shout out to being willing and able to ask for the help you need.
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I’ll be sharing a set of LEAPS each week with you and encourage you to do your own version:
L: what have you learned?
E: what’s your energy / feeling word
A: what’s one thing you need to do?
P: what are you thinking / processing?
S: who or what can you shout out?
