My Three Versions | Integrity | Change Your Life in 7 Days
Hello there! Welcome to my weekly LEAPS.
You’re receiving this email because you subscribed to my weekly Wednesday feature or our mailing list. Every Wednesday, I share 5 things using our LEAPS approach:
Learn: something new or an idea
Energy: an energy (good or bad) word and it’s meaning
Action: something to do
Processing: a question to consider
Shout out: something or someone that I want to celebrate or acknowledge
LEARN
Something Worth Sharing
My Three Versions
Research shows that most of us move through life carrying more than one version of ourselves.
There is the version we are quietly afraid of being.
The parts shaped by past judgement, disappointment, or moments where being fully seen felt unsafe. This version is rarely visible to others, but it still influences our choices, our caution, and what we hold back.There is also the version we present to the world.
The one calibrated for acceptance, competence, or belonging. This is not false in a simple sense, it often grows from genuine strengths, but over time it can become a role we maintain rather than an expression we inhabit.There is the version of ourselves that feels most real.
The one that emerges when effort drops away. When we are not managing perception or bracing for rejection. This version is not fixed or perfected, but it is recognisable, often quieter, and deeply familiar.
What makes this harder is that identity is not static. Who we are is continuously shaped by experience, responsibility, loss, success, relationships, and time. Life washes over us, again and again, and each wave leaves a trace. Expecting to “know ourselves” as a final state can quietly create frustration, because the self we are trying to define is still in motion.
The work, then, is not to decide which version is “right.” It is to notice which one is currently leading. To become curious about where we are protecting, performing, or allowing ourselves to be seen. Self-knowledge is less about certainty and more about connection - staying close enough to ourselves to recognise when we are drifting away.
Clarity comes not from fixing who we are, but from repeatedly returning to what feels aligned as we change and grow.
ENERGY
An emotion or energy; a stand-out word / s
Integrity
Integrity comes from integrité and the Latin integritas, meaning ‘wholeness or completeness’. This reminds us that it is just as important for us to be aware and accept both our flaws and strengths - staying whole as our identity shifts, allowing the protected, performed, and authentic parts of us to be held together rather than split apart.
ACTION
Something small that you can do that might make a big difference
Which Self?
Create three short lists:
• The self you fear – traits, reactions, or needs you worry would be judged or rejected if seen.
• The self you present – behaviours, roles, or strengths you emphasise to gain acceptance or credibility.
• The self you experience as most real – moments, qualities, or ways of being that feel natural when effort drops away.
Then notice where integrity might mean allowing these parts to coexist, rather than keeping them separate.
PROCESSING
A question to think about and consider (you can discuss this with someone or write your thoughts down)
“What key experiences in your life have most shaped who you are now?”
This week’s question invites you to reflect on the experiences that have shaped you over time, helping you notice how identity is often formed through lived moments rather than conscious decisions.
I’d love for you to send me your own stories / thoughts about this. Drop me a line with your answer / thoughts on this question
SHOUT OUT
Who / what I think deserves recognition - my gratitude or to be celebrated.
Reorganising and Refreshing
A shout out to the quiet reset that comes from reorganising or refreshing what already exists, a room, a piece of work, a cupboard, your inbox, or your digital space. These small acts of order can create unexpected clarity and momentum, along with the simple satisfaction of being able to locate things easily and see them looking better than before.
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LEAPS is a process used by our team and clients all the time - and even my own family on a daily basis.
I’ll be sharing a set of LEAPS each week with you and encourage you to do your own version:
L: what have you learned?
E: what’s your energy / feeling word
A: what’s one thing you need to do?
P: what are you thinking / processing?
S: who or what can you shout out?
