The Expectation Key | Perspective | Relate
Hello there! Welcome to my weekly LEAPS.
You’re receiving this email because you subscribed to my weekly Wednesday feature or our mailing list. Every Wednesday, I share 5 things using our LEAPS approach:
Learn: something new or an idea
Energy: an energy (good or bad) word and it’s meaning
Action: something to do
Processing: a question to consider
Shout out: something or someone that I want to celebrate or acknowledge
LEARN
Something Worth Sharing
The Expectation Key
We are often asked what is key to great relationships. This is both a huge and vital question. It’s common for one of the top 10 things to be communication. Lists will also include trust, respect and commitment. But, after years of working with family businesses, the most common thing that shows up in great relationships (and is missing in poor ones) is around expectations.
It also isn’t enough to simply say that we need to have ‘expectations’ or that they need to be met. This ‘key’ is essential and also comes with 5 specific needs:
Clarity
We need to know what we each expect of the other and of ourselves
Share
It is vital to share this information openlyAgree
Don’t assume - make sure that there is agreement between everyone
Accountable
Now we have to hold each other to account on this basis
Adjust
It is only natural to need to review and adjust as time goes on and needs change
It is also worth mentioning that this all especially applies to the most important relationship we have - the one with ourself. The toughest expectations that ever get set are the ones we place on ourselves.
ENERGY
An emotion or energy; a stand-out word / s
Perspective
The word Perspective is from Latin perspicere "inspect, look through, look closely at". It is formed by PER "through, forward" + SPECERER "look at" .
To understand, is to be able to move around something or someone, to change how we see - physically and metaphorically. This is perspective. To keep hold of it, we need to constantly question how we see things!
ACTION
Something small that you can do that might make a big difference
See Me
Explore the 3 questions about your self-perception.
How you see yourself
What you want others to see of you
What you don’t want others to see of you.
Is there a small action you can take to make any of this better?
PROCESSING
A question to think about and consider (you can discuss this with someone or write your thoughts down)
“Who is the person that you’d turn to for wisdom and advice that is only in your best interest? Why would you choose them?”
This week’s question is to get you to consider who you feel is your go-to person. This is the person you most respect and admire in life. If there isn’t anyone you can think of, how do you ensure you seek help and advice to make decisions you’re happy with?
I’d love for you to send me your own stories / thoughts about this. Drop me a line with your answer / thoughts on this question
SHOUT OUT
Who / what I think deserves recognition - my gratitude or to be celebrated.
Those That Go Beyond
I want to shout out to those that have passion, dedication and expertise in a given area or field. This could be an amateur plane spotter or a brain surgeon. I’ve experienced those that ‘just do the minimum’ and those that love what they do and go way beyond - are real enthusiasts. The gaps between these two is huge. It’s hard to go beyond when you don’t have the passion and energy for your subject!
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LEAPS is a process used by our team and clients all the time - and even my own family on a daily basis.
I’ll be sharing a set of LEAPS each week with you and encourage you to do your own version:
L: what have you learned?
E: what’s your energy / feeling word
A: what’s one thing you need to do?
P: what are you thinking / processing?
S: who or what can you shout out?
