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Something Worth SharingThen How Will It Be?
During a recent fascinating and deep conversation with someone close to me, we talked about a situation neither of us were happy about. While processing this, I wondered that if we didn’t want things as they were, then how did we want them to be? It’s very easy to finger point and look at the negatives of a situation, but when you reframe things from what you don’t want to how you do want them to be - you can start to build and make progress. This question got me thinking about a number of other things - if I don’t want them as they are, then how would I want them? If, for example, you have a job that isn’t what you want, what would your ideal job be? I don’t mean in terms of the job specification, but how you would want it to be in terms of feelings, trust, freedom, safety and what it would allow you to do and be etc. If you don’t like something about a relationship you have, then how would you like that to be? Once we shape how we want things to be, it allows us to walk back to where we are now, and begin taking the necessary steps forward. It may sound really basic, but understanding how we would like something to be can be harder than you’d think. It can be as challenging as just deciding (admitting) that you want something to be better than it is now, rather than simply carrying on just because you feel you ‘should’.
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