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Something Worth SharingThe Decision Judgement
Many of our daughter’s friends and peer group are busily preparing for university. There are many IKEA trips taking place, essentials being bought, and nerves in between giddy excitement. One of the things I’ve noticed is a pattern of these young adults questioning their decisions - have they picked the right universities, the right course or career paths, the best accommodation, the right bedding etc? Following the limiting structure of school education, this next step in a young person’s life can seem daunting and overwhelming. However, it strikes me that what they all need to know is that there isn’t a right or wrong decision - just a decision. For every BIG decision I’ve made (including divorce, remarrying, closing our family’s 106 year old business and so on), I realised that there is a judgement one can assign to the decision at the time of that decision. If you then wait for a significant amount of time to pass, the judgement of that same decision will change. The reason for this is that the judgement we hold is usually based on the outcome rather than the actual decision made. The longer you wait after a decision, the more the outcome starts to change and evolve. What once seemed a terrible outcome, when time is allowed to pass and things play out, will often shift to being a valuable outcome. Simple example - the sky seems clear and the sun’s shining so I decide to go out without a coat; pretty good decision? You’d think so, until the rain comes. I’m now soaked through leading to a change of view about my absent coat decision! I then buy a new coat in the sale and it becomes my absolute favourite coat, ever! Good decision or bad decision to leave the original one at home?
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